In the latest #HolaPapi, J.P. Brammer answers a question from someone who has painted themselves into a pretty deep corner of lies. “Long story short, I’m embarrassed about where I’m from, and I think it’s affecting my ability to be intimate with someone. I’ve been painting a somewhat intricate story for people of where I come from, embellishing details, and making my upbringing sound more impressive than it actually was. I’ve lied about this ever since my teens to people I thought were wealthier or had more impressive backgrounds. I tell people my parents have better careers than they do, that we go skiing and do interesting, “elitist” things when in reality I am just from a run-of-the-mill, lower-middle-class, loving home. I’m getting closer to drawing the conclusion this is a major reason why I haven’t been in a proper relationship yet (I’m 29). Again, it sounds ridiculous as I write this, but it feels like I’m swinging between an inferiority/superiority complex. I’ve been very lucky and have built a fantastic life. I’m well on the path to achieving my aspirations for life. Why can’t I be happy with who I am today and how far I’ve come?” Read @jpbrammer’s response at the link in bio.