It’s Saturday night at the Eagle Bar in New York City. The music is blaring. Shirtless men, some in leather harnesses, are spilling out of the bathroom. You make your way through the crowd, smelling sweat and the occasional whiff of poppers. In the corner to your left, a group of men are gathered groping, touching, groaning. No one is saying a word.

(SOURCE) https://www.advocate.com/voices/to-have-better-sex-lets-queer-consent