Esther Perel is a psychotherapist, a best-selling author, and the host of the podcast Where Should We Begin? — she’s also a leading expert on contemporary relationships. Every other week on the show, Perel plays a voice-mail from a listener who has reached out with a specific problem, then returns their call to offer advice. This time, it’s from someone losing their best friend to a relationship. Read @estherperelofficial’s advice at the link in bio.

This column is adapted from the podcast transcript — the show is now part of the Vox Media Podcast Network — you can listen and follow for free at the link in bio.

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